“I am sure there are one hundred and six ways we have of coping with pain. Another way is to be a good steward of it.” —Frederick Buechner in A Crazy Holy Grace (Zondervan, 2017).
Two book clubs in which I am participating have read A Crazy Holy Grace, a new collection of some of Frederick Buechner’s essays about pain and memory. In one story that is also in a previous book, The Eyes of the Heart, Buechner writes about a special series of rooms in his home that constitute his sacred space. He describes his writing space, the library—the largest room, with ceiling-high shelves of books, including the Uncle Wiggly Series, his first editions, and sermons of John Donne. Also in the room are unique objects that are meaningful to him: framed autographs of heroes such as Queen Elizabeth I and inscribed portraits of heroes such as Mark Twain and Anthony Trollope.
In his imagination Buechner then invites people from his past into what he calls his Magic Kingdom. He carries on a loving and humorous conversation with his ninety-four-year-old grandmother Naya, whom he obviously dearly loves. As he tells it, she describes their relationship as “a marriage made in heaven. I loved to talk and you loved to listen.” Buechner asks her about death. Naya describes it as “stepping off of a streetcar before it has quite come to a stop.”
Buechner has written extensively about his mother, who deals with her pain by burying it or forgetting about it; and his father, who deadens his pain with alcohol, and finally a tragic suicide when Buechner is ten years old. Buechner seems to have worked through difficulties in those relationships by writing about them. However, he still cannot invite his parents into his sacred space because of their fears that they may be too much or too little.
Buechner models for us two ways to let God enable us to work through our pain from the past. First, we can return in our imagination to a sacred space to be with those with whom we feel safe, and let them guide us through our pain. Second, when we are not comfortable dialoguing directly with those with whom we had difficulty, we can dialogue with them on paper. He believes that God works to heal us through both methods.
Joanna. Joannaseibert.com
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